Balancing corporate life and mothering a child with autism - An African perspective by Ntokozo

Creating a balance can be particularly challenging at times. There have times when she has had to leave meetings and rush to her son’s school to attend to emergencies that relate to her son’s health issues. This can be complicated if your work environment does not foster flexibility, and if you are not completely honest about your child’s needs to your employer. Ntokozo’s advice here is to be open and transparent.

After a decade spent as a mom with a child on the spectrum, this Autism Awareness Month, Ntokozo felt compelled to share insights on how African corporate mothers parenting children with autism can navigate the complexities of balancing work and motherhood in this unique cultural landscape.

Her son has taught her the importance of practicing a routine, which has helped her thrive in managing her schedule at work. This way she is able to manage his needs at school, attending his therapy sessions, medical appointments, as well his extra murals. Her number one tip is learn from your child and understand that your circumstance at home is your normal. Children on the spectrum love to know what is going on and are not too keen on surprises, so let your child know what you are doing on a daily basis.

For example, on her work-from-home days, Solly knows mommy has a meeting on Thursdays at 11am. With this on his radar, he gets on with his tasks that she has prepared for him for the day. If he is on holiday or when he gets home from school, the first thing he will ask her is how her meeting was.

Embrace cultural sensitivity. It is an opportunity to educate.

Solly and Ntokozo have learned to embrace cultural sensitivity, which has the potential to negatively impact yours and your child’s mental health. Before her son was diagnosed in 2013, she knew nothing about autism and had to learn by reading and talking to other parents who were managing children on the spectrum. With this in mind, Ntokozo is always prepared to educate others about it to foster understanding in our social circles.

Another issue is language. Speech therapy and early intervention programmes may influence your child's language development, as they might have to navigate between English in therapy and Xhosa or other home languages at home. It is essential to celebrate and preserve their linguistic diversity while supporting their communication needs. It took Solly three years of speech therapy to get his first word out at the age of five. Today he speaks three languages, so Ntokozo encourages parents to be patient.

Connect with other parents. Share experiences and strategies for support.

Prioritise self-care to navigate the unique challenges of balancing career aspirations with the demands of motherhood and autism parenting. Seek out support networks, engage in stress-reducing activities, and practice self-compassion to sustain your well-being and resilience in the face of adversity.

Ntokozo has a mom support group that meets once a month, and they all have children on the spectrum. This group is her lifeline. It is so important to find other moms and lean on them for support. Tap into community resources and support networks for families affected by autism in your area. Engage with autism advocacy groups, and access therapy services. You can also visit Autism Resources South Africa , a newsletter about autism parenting and also stocks sensory toys.

It is very important to build a holistic support system that addresses your child's unique needs, while empowering you to thrive in your career. This may include childcare arrangements, therapy services, respite care, and family support networks that cater to both your professional and parenting responsibilities. They have been actively doing play therapy with Michelle King who specialises on children on the spectrum. These sessions build positive social skills for Solly.

Champion awareness and advocacy

Take an active role in raising awareness and advocating for greater understanding and acceptance of autism within your workplace, community, and beyond. Be brave and challenge stereotypes to promote inclusive practices that celebrate diversity.

As we celebrate World Autism Month, let us reaffirm our commitment to creating a more inclusive and supportive world for individuals with autism and their families, bridging cultural divides and fostering acceptance, understanding, and empowerment for all.

Together, we can navigate the complexities of balancing work and motherhood, while celebrating the unique strengths and contributions of every individual, regardless of neurodiversity.